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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]A friend of mine became a mom and I understand things change [/b]but
I feel like we’ve bent backwards for her. As friends if X day to see her was not good because she couldn’t make it, we would all accommodate her. We’re a tight knit group but lately we have come to realize she isn’t really accommodating to us

She always has to bring her kid with her and frankly we like time for just adults.

I decided to speak out when we were having wine night at our friends house  and she thought bringing her kid
Along would be fine. I told her if she could get a sitter that would be great and if she couldn’t
Maybe next time when she could she should meet with us.

The gatherings turn into us having to make sure her kid doesn’t get into anything
And watching what we say keeping it PG.

She just said “Ok” and hasn’t been receptive.

I don’t see why she can’t just see that it’s not always about her or her kid

I spoke up for the group because we were getting tired of playing sitter since 
We all have to accommodate due to her bringing the kid around -making sure it’s kid friendly
Not swearing. Etc. [/quote]

Op,

You don't get how things change until you have a baby.  Sure, you know things aren't the same intellectually but, really you have no idea.   You also have every right to want a child free evening.  Let me ask you a question.  Do you want to see this friend?  Depending on how old this child is maybe she doesn't want to or feel comfortable leaving the kid?  If you want a child free evening either not invite her or tell her that kids are not welcome.  If you want to see her than make arrangements so you can see her and the kid.  If not, prepare to lose this friendship.

Maybe when you have kids you will understand but, it may be too late for this friendship.  And that might be ok with you, who knows? [/quote]

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