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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a co-workerI am in love with and that I’ve slept with in the past. Amazing, mind blowing sex, and we connect on a million different levels. We communicate everyday, and it’s a mix of work and non-work stuff. For a bunch of reasons we can’t be together right now (we live a few hundred miles away from each other to start). [b]We have always kept things casual/non-exclusive, but a few weeks ago I mentioned that I wasn’t going to wait for co-worker.[/b] Co-worker suddenly seems more intererested then previously. Lots of smaller check ins, little affectionate notes and texts, pet names, etc. What is going on here? I seriously love this person and if we could ever move some of the big rocks like the distance, I know we could make it work, but we’ve had hard conversations about these things and neither of us is willing to move and there are a few things that co-worker specifically needs to address before the future unfolds. [/quote]

If you keep things casual/non-exclusive, why would he even think you were going to wait for him anyway?  Have you already had some sort of discussion already about becoming exclusive "when the time is right?"  If you're casual/non-exclusive, then he already knows you're dating other people and could, in theory, find someone with whom you DO want to become exclusive.  So it doesn't make sense that you making that statement would suddenly cause him to become more attentive.

If you live far apart and have children that would likely prevent you from ever being in the same city, it's time to move in.  I think the fact that you're in love with him but also say things are casual means that you are likely holding yourself back from finding someone else with whom you'd have better luck at finding commitment.[/quote]

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