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[quote=Anonymous] things and then trying to escalate when I don't respond in a matter that he deems sufficient.

Over the past 18 months or so, my husband has been basically jumping at any opportunity to give me a thorough takedown over perceived slights. This morning, for example, his floss was in my drawer. He couldn't find it so I mentioned it could be in my drawer. I run on autopilot sometimes, especially in the am and must have just grabbed the wrong one and tossed it in my drawer and indeed, that's where it was. Anyway, when I didn't seem to think it was that big a deal, he took that as "Me never taking responsibility for anything".

I work full time and do ALL of the housework, cooking, shopping, laundry that isn't explicitly his and was trying to get ready to leave for work. Frankly, I just don't feel like little mistakes here and there are worthy of his reaction and given their increasing propensity, and a compensating mechanism (I really don't want to have the churning stomach or be on the verge of tears this early in the am, because I AM ON MY WAY TO WORK) have yes, just kind of laughed it off and said "You're right. I am a horrible wife and person in general". Yes, this is not productive, but what am I supposed to do? My life is so full of stress already and I just don't know why he feels it's okay to treat me like this. I can certainly be snide but berating someone for these small things? How should I respond productively but in a way that won't make me upset or late? I'm long past trying to defend myself or argue. Perhaps divorce in my future, but I just need to deal with this in the interim.[/quote]

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