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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What was the argument about?[/quote]

He has maintained a close relationship with his ex (keeping a picture of her in the house, meeting her for movies, lunch, etc), and I've always been okay with it because he told me early on that she meant a lot to him even though their relationship failed. [b]To be perfectly honest, I was hoping as he and I got closer, their relationship would dwindle a bit.[/b] I know how hard it is to transition from a unit to singledom after years of cohabiting. Anyway, there was a day where he just seemed down, so I came over to check on him. He collapsed into my arms in tears because a person he'd dated after the split with his ex (the one he's still close with) was depressed over their relationship not working out. [b]He told me he felt so bad for hurting this person because they meant so much to him. He spent an hour crying on me. I love that he loves people so deeply, but I won't pretend like it didn't sting a lot. [/b]

I didn't say anything to him that night, but the next day, I brought up the fact that I was feeling a little raw over having to watch him still feel so much emotional investment in his exes. [/quote]

I can’t speak to his other arguments but it seems like the bottom line is that your don’t feel secure in his feelings for you.  His comment didn’t make it any better.  I’m not sure how long you have been dating but if his been awhile then there is something about your communication styles and love language that aren’t aligned or he really isn’t that into you.  To a certain extent, it doesn’t make sense to keep arguing about insubstantial things because their doesn’t get to the main thing.

Oh and not that I would have been a fan of pictures of my partner’s ex myself but that would have been a sign early on.  Either I would have broken up because I wouldn’t want to change him and I know that wouldn’t  be cool with that or he would have had to with word and actions made me feel so secure in our relationship that it wouldn’t have even been a thing.  Would not want to be uncomfortable but hoping it would ch she some day with no signs that it would.[/quote]

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