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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue isn’t whether DD should learn to be ready for school on time or not and whether she should treat people respectfully or not. Of course she should. The issue is, what kind of parenting is most likely to produce an on-time, respectful child?

DH thinks nagging, criticizing and punishing her will help. That’s where he’s wrong. Criticizing and punishing her might lead to superficial compliance (she’ll be on time) but it will produce a child who is either furiously resentful or terrified of her father. Neither is good. The goal is to get voluntary compliance. It’s reasonable to say “we leave at 730” and stick to it whether she is ready or not, but kicking her out of the car is just guaranteed to backfire.

DH needs some better parenting techniques. If he keeps this up he’s going to have kids who hate him or fear him.[/quote]

The really sad thing? OP was raised by a critical, angry, controlling father. And he hasn’t spoken to him in two decades. That is what breaks my heart about this.[/quote]

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