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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd bail if I were you. You've been together two years, it's not really okay for him to just disappear on you like that. [/quote]

I agree with this. But my spidey sense is going off — I’m not sure that he’s being truthful with you. For him to go radio silent...unless he is in a full-on depression, this doesn’t seem right. I’m wondering if there is someone else.

I could be totally wrong, of course, but regardless[b], after two years in a relationship, radio silence isn’t acceptable[/b].[/quote]

Yeah, something tells me he met someone younger.  He's not sure if it's going to work out b/c he's worried his age is an issue.  So he's shelving OP just in case the younger women dumps him because he's too old.

He doesn't want to break up because he doesn't want to be alone, but the "kids" thing is a ruse for wanting a younger woman.  He may not even really want kids, but he wants to feel younger.  He doesn't want to admit to being so shallow, so he's convincing himself it's about wanting kids.  Meanwhile, he is melting down because dating this younger woman is making him self-conscious about his age and competing with younger men.

Of course, he can't tell OP any of this, so he hides behind the needing time to heal/talk to therapist line.

Trust me: if he were truly having a midlife crisis or afraid of not having kids, he wouldn't be freezing OP and her kids out.  He'd be thinking about getting closer.[/quote]

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