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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You likely have good quality eggs because of your age, which is often more important than large numbers.  That said, your chances statistically aren't as high as someone your age without DOR, so you should consider things overall, and your doc is doing the right thing by letting you know about options.  Your doc should be able to give you some realistic insight into how likely they think success is and then you can weigh the potential costs (money, time, stress) and make a decision.  Whether you want 1 or two more may also factor into things.

DE is a great option, but it does take some prep time if you haven't already gotten familiar with all the ins and outs of it.  If you would consider it, you can try on your own while you look at DE.  That's what I did.  I did end up doing DE for my second - no DOR, but older, so poor quality.[/quote]

Thanks for this great point. I think my visceral reaction to DE is no, not for me, but then I watched Private Life on Netflix and I warmed up to the idea. How was your experience and are you glad you did it? How did you think through your first being OE and second being DE? 
The biggest thing for me is DE seems to have just way higher success potential.[/quote]

SO HAPPY.  I'm pregnant now (first transfer of a normal blast), and very relieved to be done with OE IVF.  My daughter is excited to be a sister and knows we used a DE (to the extent a 4yo can understand anyway).  I don't feel any less than when I was pregnant with my first.  I actually feel more excitement -I didn't think I'd love the baby/young child stage as much as I do, so this time I'm actually more excited.  I kinda had the same initial thought about DE, but it was more arrogance, I think - like "I won't need that."  So wrong.  I did consider the fact that our first isn't a DE, but that was really more of not wanting the DE child to feel bad, but then I realized that there is no good reason to feel bad and we'd just need to be sure that we build a solid base and not act like there is anything wrong with DE.  We also talked to a counselor who specializes in DE concerns.  Yes, I wish OE would have worked, but mostly b/c it would have been much cheaper and overall, easier.  My daughter is so different than I am/was in so many ways, and we picked a donor with many, many similarities, so I wouldn't be all that surprised if our second is more like me than our first![/quote]

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