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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]What would you do if he had a physical difference that meant things took him more time, or he needed supports in order to things? You'd give him more time, and you'd give him those supports.[/b]

Do the same thing for your child.

Timers help some kids, they make vibrating watches. For us, since I'm a clock watcher, I just let my kid know time is passing. She has no idea time is passing, and could spend 20 minutes in the bathroom doing who knows what. If I let her know 5 minutes has passed, that jars her out of her head and gets her moving again.

Visual schedules help. Keeping the same routine every day helps. Reminding yourself your kid isn't deliberately messing with you helps.[/quote]

This may be a shocker, but parents of kids with physical disabilities get exasperated too, and this really isn't helpful.  And kids with physical disabilities are not saints.

I really resent when ADHD parents bring up physical disabilities as if children would be perfectly accommodated IF ONLY they had a physical disability.  You have no idea how hard we fight the school districts too.[/quote]
DP, but I think you may have taken the pp's point other than as it was intended.  She wasn't saying that a kid with physical disabilities would be perfectly accommodated, that they are saints, or that helping is not exasperating for their caregivers.  All she is saying is to remember that her kid's need for accommodations real, too, even though the need is invisible.  I'm sure parenting a child who cannot walk is tiring in a hundred ways, but I'm assuming you would never say to yourself or the child, "Just walk!  Stop expecting everybody to walk for you!"  Yet, as a parent with a kid with ADHD I have to remind myself that expecting him to get up and ready for school like his brother is as nonsensical as asking the child who cannot walk to do so.[/quote]

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