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[quote=Anonymous]1.  We picked a school whose first message to kids is that your parents come first because they care about you the most - we partner with them to educate you.  And they walk that walk.

2.  I talk to her about everything.  Sex, drugs, rock ‘n’ roll, good stuff and bad.  When something sucks, I acknowledge it sucks.  When she complains about something I listen and don’t tell her how to feel (even when I really want to).  I don’t let her cycle - once she has had her say about a problem I ask her how she wants to solve it.  I also tell her when I have made mistakes or why I made certain decisions and what I think I could have done better and that despite all of my shortcomings I ended up ok.  I also try new things and fail in front of her.  I fall over in yoga class.  I laugh when I get the wrong make up shade.  I shrug my shoulders and make sandwiches when my dinner recipe is awful.  I hope to let her see that mistakes are ok.  So many teenage girls think they can never make a mistake.

3.  I say no a lot.  She knows where I stand on important issues.  She knows I will call parents to check on party plans.  She knows that there will be no alcohol or drugs tolerate by her guests in our house.  She knows that I expect to see effort and that if I see it she won’t be penalized for a low grade.  She seems to appreciate this and has come to me a couple of times with concerns about classmates beginning to experiment with drug use.  And she has a delightful group of friends who seem to be very comfortable eating me out of house and home and making my Netflix subscription worthwhile.  They are adorable and I will miss them terribly when they leave for college.

4.  We watch a tv show together and have been doing this since middle school.  I pick a show and we watch all the seasons of it and then she picks.  This has been a surprising bonding experience.

I just told my husband tonight that she never stops talking to me.  I will miss her desperately when she leaves for college which will be soon.  She says she will miss us a lot too, but no offense she will also not miss us too.  [/quote]

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