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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You do realize there are people who never marry in the first place, right? That some people actually choose to be single, because they prefer it or because they never meet someone they want to marry?

So then, accepting that marriage is not an absolute must-do for everyone, then consider someone who did try, but the marriage  didn't work, and a subsequent divorce...yes, there are people who not only realize it might take them 15 years to want/choose to remarry, there are people who are either unsure they will ever remarry and there are those who are committed to never remarrying. [/quote]

OP- yes of course you are correct. But that is because they’re making a choice of free will (if I’m reading what you’re saying correctly), not because they are holding out for an economic benefit that is spelled out in a contract. [/quote]

Yes, you read it correctly. It sounds like you're certain you want to give marriage another go and are confident that will happen within the time period, and ggiven that, it makes sense to negotiate for something that will have more value to you, since this will have none if you do remarry within that time frame.

I think we're all just saying that for a lot of people, the idea that they won't remarry is a likelihood or even a given, because of how they feel about marriage after a divorce/the likelihood of meeting someone. So what your lawyer is suggesting makes sense for a lot of people, not because they are willing to hold off on a remarriage they really want for the financial benefits, but because they don't really want a remarriage. [/quote]

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