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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let him decompress! If it was me, I would send kids to grandma for the weekend and have alone time with him. Kids will be fine[/quote]

I disagree.

My husband went through a 2 year stint like this and it was horrible for the kids: toddler, preschooler and elementary kid.

They would talk about how they didn't see daddy for days and would stay up in their beds trying to be awake when he got home.

I can say that years later, the oldest (now in high school) relationship with dad is still distant from that time.  The 2nd one remembers very little about that time, except that daddy was never home and when he was he was crabby or sleeping.

If he gets off early Friday, the kids should be in school. Let him unwind, and have him pick up the kids.  Do an easy, relaxing night at home, doing what relaxes dad while the kids hang out too, like pizza night while he plays video games (with the kids hanging out) or pop in a movie where he cuddles on the couch with the kids. Early bed for the kids and let him sleep in.

The next day, just continue with unstructured, relaxing at home.  The kids will alternate between playing and hanging on him, but if there is nothing scheduled and no timelines, then it should be low stress for him.  Again, easy, relaxing dinner at home, something low key with the kids afterwards (like sitting on the bed chatting while the kids show him their toys or play legos) and early bed again.

Just be prepared for next week. It will be very hard on the kids. That week after they saw him was always difficult for them.[/quote]

There’s a big difference in 3 weeks and 2 years.

OP leave him alone to decompress. I travel for weeks on end, and nothing makes me more unhappy than when DH has prescheduled something or has people coming over. If I get 36 hours to drop in, I need time to relax, run laundry, pick up dry cleaning, and repack. [/quote]

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