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[quote=Anonymous]I’m in a relationship with someone who I feel very strongly about. We match on so many levels- intellectually, sense of humor, core values, life goals. I find him attractive and we have amazing sexual chemistry. We met through work though we live in different cities, and our paths cross every few months. We speak on the phone a few times a week. We rarely text (every once in a while when we haven’t seen each other in a while we’ll sext with pics), but we do communicate via email with lengthy exchanges most days.

The fatal flaw is that he is married. I am divorced, mom of three under twelve years old, shared custody, for frame of reference about me. The woman he’s married to is abusive and terrible. He will not leave until his children are grown for fear of putting them in the crossfire. The reports on her behavior are corroborated by things I’ve heard from others that know her but have no idea that he and I are in a relationship, so I 100% believe this. He has always from day 1 been up front with me about this. Believe me when I say I’m not being played on this. The killer is that his kids will not be grown and out of the house for ten years. That is a long time.

He’s the one who pursued me, but I was not hard to catch. It’s been almost a year now that we’ve been together. Where does this go from here? 10 years of the same? Then after 10 years we can find out if we can actually do this for real? Right now I feel like he spends just as much time reaching for me as he does pushing me away. I want this to work. I really want to be the one who steadfastly stood there and got to the finish line. I don’t want to do online dating when I have something I know can work....... in just.ten.years.

And before you ask, I have tons of self esteem, I’m active in my community, I have a lot of friends, I am attractive, I have a great job, I’m in my 30s...

I’m trying to find a way to wake up everyday being okay with this. I talk to him about it and he knows it weighs on me and he wishes he could give me more of what I want/need. It weighs on him too. So, what to do? Wait on it? Take it a day at a time? My entire body literally aches at the thought of not being connected to him somehow.  [/quote]

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