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[quote=Anonymous]A friend of mine (Diane) is trying very hard to avoid going to a destination wedding of an old friend of hers (Stacy) because Stacy's cousin (Steve) is essentially the reason Diane's first marriage broke up. Steve was Diane's first boyfriend (she met him through Stacy), and, when Diane's first marriage wasn't doing so well, she ran into Steve and, long story short, slept with him over a period of several months.

This all occurred several years ago, and in that time, Diane met and married someone - "Dave." I never asked Diane if/what she told Dave about her past marriage and why it ended. Now, Diane is super-stressed about going to Stacy's destination wedding, because Steve will be there. She's looking for reasons to get out of it, trying to find ways to go without Dave, etc.

Diane has been so vocal about trying to avoid attending this wedding that a few of our mutual friends have begun to wonder why. We have speculated that she hadn't told her current husband Dave that her previous marriage ended due to cheating (with Steve).

Some of the group think it's no big deal if Diane cheated in her previous marriage, that cheating only happens when a marriage is in breakdown anyway. Others think that Dave (current husband) might feel betrayed if he married her not knowing the circumstances of her previous divorce, and it could be a huge problem for their marriage.

I really and truly swear I am the friend in this scenario, I've just been surprised at the divided opinions in our friend group. Some seem to think that cheating is a given in the case of a divorce, and Dave wouldn't be bothered by it at all, given that he's also had a previous marriage. Others think he could potentially leave Diane if he finds out how her first marriage ended, and that she didn't portray it honestly. I don't want to say what my opinion in order to not color the responses.
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