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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my daughter was 15 she made a conscious decision to begin hanging around with less academically minded friends and start hanging out with the "fun" crowd.  Another mom clued me in to [b]some behaviors I was unaware of and shocked by[/b].  I grounded her for a year.  She wasn't allowed to do any overnights anywhere, or have others overnight at our house, and she had to come straight home from school.  Evenings and weekends she hung out with her family instead of friends.

It curbed the opportunity for the sketchy behavior and kept her out of trouble for that year.  It did not totally change her point of view.  She did thank me a few years later, she said she was in some ways relieved to have an excuse to say no to the new friends.

She's a stubborn one, and even now as an adult she likes to party, although her life is otherwise successful and on track.  I didn't change her by grounding her but I changed the year she was fifteen.[/quote]
NP here. could you elaborate on the 'behaviors' so that the rest of us with teens can keep an eye out?[/quote]

The mom of one of my daughter's friends contacted me and told me she had read her daughter's journal and it documented activities like getting high, drinking and sexual activity her daughter and some friends had engaged in, my daughter was named as one of them.  I believed her but she also showed it to me so there was no doubt, even though as far as I know my daughter had not done those things previously.  Ironically I had been talking to her about saying no to such activities when presented with temptation and my daughter had been lying to me about how she would never do such things.  Ha.

I did not reveal exactly how I knew but I told her I absolutely knew what she had been up to and named the activities.  There was no denying it, she was kind of shocked that I knew details.  So although she resisted the grounding my husband and I were vigilant in enforcing it, we spent a lot of time with her together and separately doing wholesome family things in the evenings and weekends.  We all actually enjoyed that.  It is easy to cut back on that stuff as your kids are teens and want to hang out with their friends, but not a good idea.[/quote]

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