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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I agreed to separate on the heels of me losing my job. He's been emotionally absent for a long time and a few things led up to my aha that things weren't changing, namely his admitting he's not invested. I don't have any job prospects right now but am working hard to apply to jobs. The emotional weight of living together and portraying ourselves as a couple to everyone is killing me. Due to financial constraints (daycare primarily plus cost of living around here), we won't be separating households until I secure a new job...and I have no idea how long that could take.

My close friends (most of whom don't live locally) know, but I haven't shared this with anyone besides one close friend in the area. Also with the holidays coming up, I know my husband's mother (not local) will be eager to set up the usual gift exchange and such but I am feeling like I'd like to bow out if we aren't going to remain together. I doubt he will tell his parents about our pending separation without considerable prodding on my part. Also, she's been sending us the proofs of family photos we all took together and asking what we will select. We discussed the separation the day before we took the photos...which she had scheduled.

Do I just let this go for now and play along? There's no compelling reason to share this news beyond feeling tired of the facade, but given that we'll be living together for a while, I don't know if I just keep quiet.

When I say separation, I do mean permanently. He's made his intentions clear.[/quote]

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