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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, let her play what she wants.  Her frustrations from time to time is building resilience b/c she's choosing what she likes to do.  If she wants to call it quits and try individual sports or other activities, then fine.[/quote]

I think this is easier said than done.  My DS w/significant motor planning delays gets really upset when he's last. I'm not sure that "always being the slowest kid" really builds the kind of resilience that's healthy.  But, he pretty quickly concluded that he "hates soccer" so I never had to deal with steering him away from anything.  I think it's OK if OP wants to let her DD figure this out on her own, but not at the expense of her self-esteem or spending time on other activities that are good for her.  [/quote]

Every kid is different.  Your kid gets really upset whereas the op's kid is "just starting to realize" she can't always keep up with her peers.  Not a big deal.  The op is trying to preemptively shield her from something that may never be a problem.

Op, I had a friend who lost an arm from the elbow down as a child and went on to play on the high school basketball team.  No prosthetic.  This would never have happened if the parents were worried about potential disappointment or frustration on learning to play one handed.

Just let your kid develop into who she wants to be.  If she's interested in something, let her try.  Don't stop her before she even tries.[/quote]

NP. Well, if you've never walked the walk of the SN parent, it's hard to take your advice seriously. That's nice about your friend, but trust me, those Hallmark movie moments don't happen often in real life. In the OP Op mentions how her daughter often has her feelings hurt. You have no way to assess if she is "building resilience". Kids with SN have opportunities to fail ALL THE TIME. Platitudes about allowing them to fail to build resilience really doesn't apply. We don't have to find opportunities for it to happen to them.

OP, I think you are right to be concerned. Why don't you do both, allow her to choose some group sports, but also steer her toward some individual activities she can have success with as an individual. Because if you wait until she quits the other sports on her own it may be hard to undue the damage of her seeing herself as someone who "failed" at the group sports.[/quote]

My kid has developmental coordination disorder.  Major physical SN.  So yes, I think the op is letting HER anxiety hold her kid back.[/quote]

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