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[quote=Anonymous]44 year old DH here, my wife could write something similar.  Fact is, I have gone from initiating at least a couple times a week, being flirty, fun, showing genuine desire, trying to schedule it....to, well, whatever, if she wants it we can do it, but I am not going to beg for it.  Honestly, it's two factors: 1) years and years of rejection, or more accurately, lack of interest on her part.  And when I say lack of interest, I mean lack of any imagination, any suggestions, rebuffing my suggestions, through words and actions making it clear sex is something she does mostly for me and to make sure I don't get pouty.  2) My libido has declined some, I used to want sex daily and now am fine with 1-2x a week.

The reality is the lack of sex, whether any of us want it or not, erodes our relationship.  It's just cold between us.

Only advice is to have a conversation, don't go past, go forward.  Assuming you actually want sex with him, show him.  If all your missing is the feeling of being desired but you don't want the actual sex part, then don't fool him into thinking he should try and refocus his sexual energy back to you, since he has conditioned himself to direct it inward or elsewhere.[/quote]

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