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[quote=Anonymous]So, basically, he cheated on a long-term SAHM.

Cash is fungible. If you are running a joint household as equal earners (but one person has massive debt), you’re likely not going to be able to split all house hold expenses straight up the middle, because the person with debt has less money to contribute on a monthly basis. In other words, you’re likely going to end up subsidizing that person’s debt expenses, even if it is indirectly (you’ll pay for more of your stuff as a couple so that he can pay for “his” expense - the alimony).

Say you’re able to split all expenses equally, then he still has less to save for retirement and other things. If the relationship goes the distance, you’ll likely end up paying for more of his stuff in retirement.

I wouldn’t consider a relationship with a man like this unless he were seriously wealthy (in other words, able to pay for all his expenses, all his alimony, fully fund his retirement and then some). No cash of mine is going to pay for a man’s  poor choices in his first marriage. [/quote]

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