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[quote=Anonymous]We used a surrogate years ago (our twins are 7 now).  We discussed what we wanted with the surrogate before we signed our contract.

When the babies were born, the surrogate got to hold the children in the OR (C-section) and also the next morning when she was up to it.  But after the babies went to the NICU (they were premies, but it would have been the same in the nursery if they were not), we were the parents with visitation listed.  We were able to get into the NICU about two hours after the babies arrived there.   During the first hour, they were moved into the incubators, all the paperwork was handled and they went through setting up the equipment to monitor the children, etc.  After that, there was a wait as the nurses took all the vitals, did all the prep.  There was a delay before the neonatologist on call (they were born at 12:05 AM) finally arrived and he was able to check the children out, review their files, determine any tests or actions that the staff needed to handle.  The staff took care of ordering tests, medications, etc and then when all the minutae and details of their care was settles, we were able to get in to see them.  We couldn't touch them that night.  But we were able to see our children.  The next morning, we came by to see them and we were able to hold them, have skin-to-skin and we started feeding them about 10 hours after they were born.  This was a small hospital with a fantastic NICU and they were so nice to us.  They had an empty room in the maternity ward and let us stay there so that we were on-site with our children.  We came by every 3 hours to feed the babies.  My wife is more of a morning person, so she would get up and go feed them in the morning.  I am a night owl, and I stayed up for the late shift.  All in all, we did about 6 of the 8 feedings a day while they were in the NICU.  3 days after birth, when they needed the maternity room, they were kind enough to find an empty room in the pediatric ward (down the hall) and moved us there so we were still on-site and could come by every 3 hours to feed the children and have that bonding time with them.  They were in the NICU for 16 days and we only had to stay in a local hotel one night during that time.  And the night we stayed in a hotel, we were only 2 miles from the hospital and I still drove over that evening and did two more feedings after my wife went to bed.

We are still on great terms with the surrogate.  We are FB friends and we send her updates and photos regularly.  We also go to her neck of the woods about every 2-3 years and usually arrange to take her out to lunch with the kids so she can see them and spend some time with them.[/quote]

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