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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not blindly, no. But I expect them to comply when I make reasonable requests and to discuss it calmly and respectfully if they disagree. [/quote]

^^^mine are older. When they were toddlers, yes I expected them to follow safety commands. Don’t touch that, don’t go in the street, etc.[/quote]
How old were they when you decided it was ok for you to debate everything you told them, that they didn't agree with?[/quote]

Not sure. They’ve always been advanced communicators. They are not rude and somehow they know the difference between a non negotiable (like a safety item) and weather or not I feel a certain TV show us age appropriate. I’m open to respectful discussion on some things. And if I’m not, I’ll say “this isn’t negotiable.”[/quote]
What I'm getting at is this:
When your kid wants something, and you say "no", is it *really* a good idea to let your kid debate you?

People keep asking why so many boys/men think they can assault a girl/woman when she said "no". If our boys have been trained to ignore "no", what exactly should we expect?

If you want to debate things with your kid, please do NOT say "no", and then back off and open a debate.

Instead say, let's talk about it, or let me think about, or I'll discuss it with your father/mother.

If you want "No Means No, start acting like it and put your money where your mouth is. Mean what you say, or don't say it.

I can see how boys think "no means yes", if that's how they're been raised. Most boys know that if they nag/pound their parents long enough, they'll often get what they want. Allowing a debate after you've already said "no", is very dangerous territory.

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