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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is actually pretty thoughtful at thinking up great gifts to give me, but he never follows through with actually getting them for me. For any gift giving occasion he will either print out a word document that has a picture of what he intends to get, or will verbally tell me. But then he never follows through to purchase the item on his own. I truly don’t get it - why go to the trouble of saying you will give someone something but never following through???

There are typically 3 outcomes - either I nag him incessantly about the gift and he eventually buys it to get me to shut up, I ask him about the gift and he seemingly has no intention of getting it so I just buy the item myself (which annoys him because I couldn’t wait for him to get it), or I ask a few times then let it go and then never end up getting said gift.

Some recent examples - for Mother’s Day back in May my gift was a spa day sans kids for a massage and facial. I asked DH when this would take place and if I should make the appointment but he told  me repeatedly he would handle it. Well it’s the end of September and I am still waiting. I brought it up again last weekend and his response was that he didn’t realize it was so urgent???

For my birthday at the end of August DH tells me he is going to get us tickets to Florence and the Machine since I mentioned that I would love to see her perform. Well the show is in 2 weeks and he still hasn’t bought the tickets. What is he waiting for? So last night we got into a fight because I told him I should cancel the sitter now if he isn’t actually going to buy the tickets and his response was that I am so crazy uptight about these things.

I have asked him repeatedly not to give me gifts anymore because it’s so much worse when he doesn’t follow through or I nag him to death than if he just got me nothing at all. I don’t think he has followed through on a single gift in the last 5 years without a lot of prodding on my end.

Can anyone please help me understand this?

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