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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you so much for these posts. I do like the idea of a timeline, and was actually giving myself 2 years of individual therapy before doing anything. Maybe that's because I am afraid of just. doing. it., but it has been so so long, and I am so so tired.

I also really like keeping a journal. It will help on many levels. Thank you. [/quote]

I am the timeline poster.  I found that the abusive relationahip really impacted me and made me much more emotionally volatile.  Read up a little on complex PTSD and hypervigilance.  I needed several years to focus on myself and my kids, establish a calm environment and center myself.  I also did NOT want to make the same mistake twice.  This was my second abusive relationship.  I really needed time to understand how my family of origin contributed to my being in these kinds of relationships.  I also had to work on my sense of boundaries; I think I have been far too flexible and understanding in relationships.  Finally, I had to learn to proactively build interpersonal relationships.  I am much more reactive than is healthy. [/quote]

OP here, thank you to this poster for this very candid, honest story and advice. I've done Imago therapy in the past-- it's basically what you outline-- exploring how your family of origin shapes the choices and behaviors you exhibit present day. My mother was very volatile, physically abusive, and yelled a LOT. She died 20 years ago, and looking back, I actually think she suffered from depression.

I like that you gave yourself time. I'm doing that too, but still taking concrete steps to get stronger. Thank you for sharing your story and making me feel like I'm not alone. [/quote]

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