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[quote=Anonymous]I did - just got a BFP on a HPT from the transfer last week.  My 4yo knows that my eggs are broken and we borrowed an egg from a nice woman, so it definitely won't be a secret.  We did pick someone who looks very much like me, so it shouldn't be something that is noticeable to people who don't otherwise know.  We have additional embryos, and I wouldn't mind having 3, but husband isn't up for that (currently, anyway).  I'm sure there will come a time when the child will feel some disappointment at not being my genetic child (probably as a moody teen), but I'll only ever feel incredibly lucky and lots of love.  I talked to a counselor that specializes in donor issues, and she said that most DE children take issue with it being kept a secret from them and then also want to know of siblings.  They tend not to have issues viewing their birth parents as their actual parents or feel the same sense of loss that adopted children do, since they were never "given up."  We also have a lot of health history for the donor and know her name (and skyped with her briefly), so the child could contact her later if desired.

There are counselors that specialize in donor issues.  The person I talked to was in New England, I think, and did phone consults.[/quote]

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