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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short: I've been on 5 dates with someone whose affect is odd. There's no discernible speech impediment (unless he's successfully hiding one with the way he speaks) which is very, very slowly and deliberately, with almost no variance in tone or expression. We met online, and the pre-date messages were great - smart, funny, quick banter. The first 20 minutes of the first date, I actually thought to myself "OMG - he had someone else writing his texts" because he came across as a meathead in person. The longer the date went, and in subsequent ones, it became obvious that he is very smart just like I thought, he just has a very odd way of speaking. I realize there could be potential causes for this beyond it just being "the way he is": as mentioned, managing a speech impediment, medication (a friend's husband who also had a flat affect was on very heavy prescribed psychological meds), etc. If any of those are the case, I'll need to decide when I learn what/why if the underlying reality is  I can deal with. For right now, I'm just wondering, absent the reason why, if anyone has gotten used to a peculiar affect of their spouse's that they used to notice. I have one friend with a husband with a lisp, and she swears she doesn't hear it anymore, but one isn't a very large sample size. I like this guy, he treats me well, but I'm not sure I'll get used to the odd speech patterns.[/quote]

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