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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well there may be more research on Korean adoptees because it is the oldest and largest international adopted group, international adoption started in the 50s.

I’m a Korean adoptee. I have a hard time separating my adoption from other issues, such as race. They all go together. As a kid I was stared at everywhere we went and usually had tons of questions. And back then, there was no coaching for parents on race or how to handle anything so whatever their feelings were about an issue, that was all you got. That was terribly depressing and I struggled. As I got older and could voice my experiences and met other adult adoptees, I realized I wasn’t crazy and that I did have challenging circumstances to navigate on my own with no help. Now I am well adjusted, married, successful enough and have my own family.

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My best friend in college was a Korean adoptee and said she had a similar experience.  Adopted by a white family in a small town who ended up later having a biological child.  She felt really isolated and said her parents pretty much denied and/or ignored the fact that she was a different race.  She struggled a lot in college and after college, but ended up happy and well adjusted.  I think some of it is inevitable with adoption, but a lot could have been mitigated if her parents were better educated on how to parent her and support her.  
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