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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you end up regretting it?  When one spouse doesn't want to vacation with the other spouse's family, a frequent suggestion on this board is to let the other spouse vacation with their family alone.  Or, take the kids on the vacation and let the one spouse have a break.  I'm contemplating this but wonder if I'll regret it.  Hence my question.

My reasons for considering that DH go on this trip with his family alone are: 1) we have young kids, one will be less than a year old.  2) In 10 years of marriage I've never once enjoyed a family vacation with DH's family.  We've done several, and I have to remind myself repeatedly that I'm there because I love DH and he wants me there.  3) Related to #2 is DH's family is a big group - 35 people if all show up.  It just turns into chaos, and our kids are younger than the other grand kids and tend to get overlooked a bit (DH has noticed this as well).  I've always been perfectly happy seeing one of DH's siblings and their families.  The whole group is too much for me.  4) DH and I simply have different priorities when it comes to money.  He is super frugal and never wants to spend more than the bare minimum, and (I feel) gives me a hard time when I spend money on something he wouldn't (even groceries he wouldn't have purchased - no amount is too small).  However, he has no problem flying across the country for a week (easily $1,600) and rent a house ($1,500) and car ($800) to vacation with his family.  I am beyond frustrated with him giving me a hard time for what I spend money on, and then for him to turn around and be willing to spend thousands for a trip I won't enjoy.  No, no, no, and no.  Maybe this is too many issues for one post.  My main question is whether anyone has regretted sending their DH to vacation alone with the in-laws. [/quote]

There is A LOT of drama packed in here, but in a nutshell if my DH wanted to take the kids to visit his family for a week without me, that sounds like a dream come true. Being in the house alone by myself? I cant even imagine something so glorious. [/quote]

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