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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think she needs to say anything dramatic to him.  Yes, it would be nice if he got the message that his behavior isn't acceptable, but he sounds like a potential problem for her.  Does she have friends at school?  Have her focus on other people, surround herself with friends at lunch so there's "no room" for him, respond to him minimally without making much eye contact, and generally just phase him out.  If it's possible for her to privately and quietly ask the teacher to have her seat moved, maybe she could do that as well.

When you say he blackmailed girls about nude photos, can you say more about that?  Did they send him the photos or did he somehow get ahold of them?  What did he extort from them when he blackmailed them?  So disturbing.  I wouldn't advise your daughter to take this guy on head-on but instead just phase him out without drama.[/quote]

I don’t have more info on the blackmailing. I asked, but she doesn’t know. She did say the girls sent him the pictures.

Her only friend in the class sits on the other side of this guy, so she would prefer not to move, but we discussed the possibilities. She could email the teacher and explain the situation.

The cold shoulder approach sounds like the best one.

[quote=Anonymous]You can't micromanage her every social interaction at age 16.  She can be cordial to people she doesn't like.[/quote]

What do you do when your kid asks for advice?

I first told her to ask her best friend what to do about the situation.  She gave her a great talk about not owing this guy anything, even though they used to be friends. She did not have any advice on the execution of ending the friendship. This situation is not your average social interaction. This guy shows signs that it could be risky in some way.[/quote]

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