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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the accepted solution for dealing with racist family members? What about someone who is very nice-only to white people?

This is my MIL. My husband says, "she's old" and ignores her racist remarks. Currently MIL is attempting to dissuade SIL for dating an African American man. I am so appalled and cannot believe this happens still. What can I do? Say? Anything?[/quote]

This isn't your business. This is between MIL and SIL. Stay out of it.

If your DH doesn't want to get involved, why should you? They're his relatives, not yours.
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I agree to an extent that what's going on between MIL and SIL isn't OP's business, however...

How is this coming up? Is MIL bringing it up to you and saying, SIL is trying to date a....? Is SIL coming to you and talking about how her mom doesn't want her to date a Black man?

If the former, I would shut it down if it was happening in front of me. "Your only objection to Jeff is that he's Black. I find that racist and I don't want to hear about it anymore." If SIL is bringing it up to you, let her know that you support her right to date whoever she wants and hope he treats her well. Actively support the relationship by inviting her and her boyfriend to dinner or something, sans MIL.

If she talking racist in front of your kids, tell her that you will not allow racist speech in front of your children and then leave. If your husband has a problem with that, tell him that he needs to support his half-Indian children in a situation where a family member is being racist, period, or he's a crappy dad.[/quote]

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