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[quote=Anonymous]Since there are some other SIL threads I am going to post my problem.  I have 2 SIL.  SIL1 I am close with.  SIL2 we get along but we are not close.  SIL1 and I hang out all the time outside of family functions..  My sister will join us sometimes as well.  SIL2 is not quite as social and turns down 90% of our invites (which is fine) but does attend all the family functions.

SIL1 celebrated her 30th birthday over the weekend.  Since it was a milestone birthday my sister and I put a lot more planning into this party than say we would have a 29th bday party.  SIL1 loves makeup and skincare products.  My sister and I decided to ask the family members that were willing to let us pick out the products to get her.  100% said yes and were more than happy to let us pick out their present for her.  We wanted to restock her staples and get things that she would love but not buy herself.  This party has been on the planning stages for a while so we got some good sales and we stayed within budget.  SIL1 and my brother bought a house and have 2 kids so money is very tight and she rarely buys for herself anymore.

On Saturday we had her 30th birthday party.  It was a success and everyone had a wonderful time.  SIL1 went nuts over her presents and was practically in tears.  It was a good day and everyone went home happy.

On Sunday my brother and other SIL2 came over.  My husband and brother were playing games in the other room.  We started talking about SIL1 bday party and SIL2 says that it was a very nice party and she could tell we put some thought into the presents.  I said we wanted her party to be special.  She then said something that shocked me.  She said that my sister and I did not go all out for her 30th bday party and that does not surprise her.  I'm like your husband and sister planned your party.  I'm like if you have something to say just say it.  SIL2 said she was not going to make an issue of it but my sister and I put way more thought into SIL1's presents than we do hers.  She then referenced one of the high end makeup palettes we got for SIL1 and she said we would never get her anything like that.  She said the whole room could tell who the favorite SIL was.  This upset me.  I told her she was not the center of the universe and to grow up.  I went upstairs.  My brother texted me and asked for "my side".  I told him his wife was out of line and needed to get over her jealousy.

It's not like we exclude SIL2 from anything.  We always invite her and she almost always says no.  I don't think she has any room to be upset and how dare she make this about her.  This is the first time we have really argued about anything.  Should I just let it go or confront the issue?  I don't want any awkwardness at family events. [/quote]

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