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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Dad pushed me to still go to college. He said it was my time to focus on myself. He was glad I'd selected the school cross-country,  because it forced me to do just that. I of course struggled being far away but succeeded in school. It was clearly defined by all that we all had our "jobs" and being a student was mine.  He was adamant he did not want my life being held up by situations at home,  as he said repeatedly,  "You can always come home. " he reminded me leaving and starting college is sometimes harder. I'm glad he pushed me out, I wanted to stay and help.  He was right,  I needed to go. Best wishes to your family.  I'm cheering for all of you![/quote]

Well said. My parents sent us kids away to college on time while going through the worst tragedy of their lives too. They weren't going to let it ruin their children's live and the dreams they had for their kids. It meant everything to them that we keep on moving forward. I think that attitude saved us all.

However, I caution you to keep your eyes and ears open because not every kid can handle this. It is hard. You are fortunate to be in an era where you can communicate face to face from a distance. We didn't have that. Remember that your child is/will be going through more than just your husband's diagnosis, and they need to be able to talk to someone about the not-dad stuff too. Make sure they have someone other than you guys (an Aunt, a mom-friend who is close to them, a counselor), because it is 100% human nature to protect our parents from our own stuff, especially when our parents are going through hell. Let them know you are here to talk about the not-dad stuff, but make sure they have a back up. Don't be afraid to let your kid come home if their own mental health requires a break. Know your own kid.

Wishing you well.[/quote]

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