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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks all. I think you're right, at least for now to leave it be. My emotions are high about it. My dad is a main male role model in my sons life and I don't like what he's modelling, but you're right, thats not in my control. The other thing is that my son wants to see them less and less as he gets older (which happened with my daughter too). Like G & G were fun when they were little but as they get older and their needs change they don't enjoy time with them as much and personally I wish my parents could understand the effect of their ways for the sake of the bond.

It is hard for me to trust that I'm instilling my values - which obviously I am if my son notices his feelings about this AND says something, because my parents led to me spending a lot of years in therapy. i.e. I didn't know what feelings were/what that meant and had no confidence.

I like the idea of using the word resilience and also think I will make a point to praise my son's kindness, sensitivity, etc. when with my parents. My dad has very rigid gender role ideas and thinks men should be a certain way. He was abused as a child for being sensitive which adds to the issues. Ugh. My kids see them maybe once a month but are leaving for five days of camping with them which has upped my stress about their impact.[/quote]

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