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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello I am looking for insight. My beloved adopted brother randomly uploaded his dna profile to public dna database mainly looking for health  information not a burning desire to meet biological parents. We are very close and he has never been driven to fill an empty whole or anything like that. All of the sudden his large think Irish Catholic family and half siblings all want to meet him. With 24 hours he went from mild curiosity to huge group of people wanting to meet. He is informing every step of the way and overwhelmed. Has anyone gone through this? What is the outcome. What is my role? Technically he has 4 half siblings but I also feel like there siblings too because we are so close. I have told him love expands not detracts so finding more people that love you is a blessing. And of course health information is important. Any insight is appreciated. [/quote]

Your role is to step back a bit and let him decide how much, if at all, he wants you involved. It would be lovely if he met them and they are all great people and they embrace you as well as the sibling, and you both gain additional family. But they may not feel that way, or he -- despite never having really sought out his biological relatives before -- may suddenly want to keep them for himself. And if so, you have to let him. No matter how close you are there will always be things that belong to just each of you (marriage, children, etc). This may be one of them and you have to let him explore it the way he wants to.[/quote]

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