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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I found a long-lost half sibling a decade ago. Not through DNA. We found it easier to meet one person at a time (there’s tons of us). It think it took 2 years to finish that process. He did individual therapy during it all. I’d recommend slowly meeting people rather than one big reunion. Also, [b]professional [/b]help. [/quote]

Why? Why does every life event seem to need hand holding? [/quote]

Finding an entire family is not just a life event like getting married ior having a baby. There’s a loss at the heart of every adoption. Even if the adoptee had a great family growing up, they lost other relationships. It can be tricky to navigate. My non-adopted our siblings and I had a relationship with grandparents and an uncle that died before we reunited with our adopted-out sibling. We have a family verbal shorthand build of shared experiences and inside jokes that can be unintentionally exclusionary. We get sentimental pleasure from things that might seem ordinary or weird to others. It’s a lot to process when six people all start laughing hysterically when one person says the name of a fast food chain that didn’t even exist in the part of the country you grew up in, but they all associate with a Christmas that should have been ruined, but became a major bonding moment. [/quote]

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