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[quote=Anonymous]I think the real issue is - is this a hill you're willing to die on? You don't want to divorce over it - your DH doesn't want let it go.

I understand though. It's a tough situation to be forced to give up a good friend. I wouldn't like that either. I think it's awful that he's basically accusing of you doing things you're not when you're being open and transparent with him.

I think rather than waiting until the next "marry Mike then" moment, you really have a sit down about this. Because it's really not fair to you. They say in marriage you're supposed to "forsake all others" but people really take this too far. When you cultivate strong healthy relationships with others that are meaningful and you care about - it's awful to say "well since my DH doesn't like it - poof be gone". Also, these feelings of Mike's were literally over a decade ago.

There is no real winner here and I wouldn't want to be you. I suspect that in the end you'll probably fade away with Mike because it's the easiest solution. But I think telling your husband how incredibly unfair it is should happen. Thing is, you may end up resenting letting your friend go and it actually become a bigger issue for the two of you if you end the friendship instead of coming up with compromise.[/quote]

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