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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh OP I’m so sorry. Your poor daughter does not deserve this. What is the school saying when you report the bullying? Is that part of your application to transfer? Does your school/district have a policy on bullying?

Depending on how the school has acted to hearing about these incidents it may be necessary to re-engage your lawyer to submit the request to district to have her moved ASAP.[/quote]

We have thought of moving but we just moved here as she was starting Kindergarten. So expensive to up sticks again particularly on this area. Took us ages to save up to move to a bigger house.  Many friends in my previous neighborhood where the schools are in a team with our current school had mentioned years ago when our oldest was starting, that they had deliberately not sent their kids to this particular school because of it’s almost complete lack of diversity - and these are white friends -but it’s not something we dwell on much so I had completely forgotten about that aspect and the school and it’s reputation was one of the main reasons we chose the neighborhood. 
We have never had these issues before with the older 2. At first I thought she was exaggerating when she would tell me that no one played with her during recess so I went and parked across the street during recess one day and spent the time crying as I saw her running from group to group trying to join in and seeing the group run away leaving her standing alone. I had to call  my husband to watch too because we had both thought it could not be as bad as she was making out. She eventually just played alone. She has very few play dates compared to her brother and sister who have several (different schools) and several friends. 
We have thought it might be her being annoying- has ADHD issues - which we thought might annoy other kids but she has friends from preschool who still come over and we did not see anything of concern. Even had her evaluated by a psychiatrist who basically told us we had wasted our money because she is a normal child. He said he sees many children with ADHD and he even concluded that he thought the diagnosis was wrong (originally given by Stixrud at age 5). She saw him last year at 7.
We have reported the incidents to the school but they just say they haven’t noticed anything -she seems happy etc.
She was sent to be interviewed by the school counselor where she actually did voice many of the concerns she had at school. Counselor said she asked open ended questions about what she liked and did not like about school and my daughter talked about not liking her hair and being brown. She talked about the questions people ask her about being brown that she did not like. Nothing done. Felt like everyone was just checking boxes but unwilling to do anything furthers  
I have also spoken at length and several times with the social worker and the Minority something or other-this was last year. Both of them were very supportive of our decision to ask for a transfer. The Social Worker said she was speaking off the record becaus she could not give that kind of information or advice to parents. The Minorities lady happened to be married to a black man and she said her kids, who looked white to me (she showed me photos) but who had very slightly thicker hair, had many problems with teasing (hair) at the same school and in her experience , and that of the social worker, this issue tends to get worse with the teen years in this particular school area. Oh my. She eventually moved them (think they went private but cannot really remember).

The Dep Sup says there is overcrowing and that they can only accommodate neighborhood kids. They do do transfers, on a case by case basis but the overcrowding means they cannot do anything at this time. 
Having been to the DS herself, what is my next option?  Only lawyer?
Thanks [/quote]

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