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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- my DS isn't sporty and gets anxious around roughhousing.

Honestly, I have never expected others accommodate his preferred game if he is the only one who wants to do it- I encourage him to play what the group is playing *or* to choose to do something on his own.

What I do hope that others will be kind to him when he chooses to play. For instance, DS has a friend (great kid) who is a gifted athlete- and he slows the pace so that DS can participate and shows DS how to pitch/catch. It's built DS's confidence so that now, he will join in even if it's not his favorite thing. [/quote]

also- none of this is to say that your DS shouldn't be empathetic and courteous to his friend- or if there is a special circumstance (you said the boy is younger) that he shouldn't be considerate. I think kids learn more from being inclusive- figuring out how to involve everyone in a game vs. changing the preferred plan to suit one person. The worst for us was when some boys at my son's school said he couldn't play soccer at recess because "he wasn't good enough."  DS wasn't insisting on tag, he put himself out there, knowing the other boys were so much better so that he could feel like part of the group- then to get shot down was crummy. If my DS did that to another kid, I would be quite upset. [/quote]

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