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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are really going to do it, just know that so many people have been in your situation and have done it successfully. It will take time though. I have always been a single mom but I also had a single mom as a role model. I have never owned a home so maybe other posters can comment about what they did in that area. That's great if you can stay at the same job and increase the hours. If daycare can take the baby full-time, you have just eliminated 2 huge stressors from your new life. As for getting dressed, you can wake up earlier than the baby. I hate getting up early so I slept as long as possible. I would feed my son and then put him in my room while I got ready. He had toys in one corner of my room as well as books. When he got older, he watched TV in my room while I got ready. This is very doable and you will have breaks sometimes when you ex takes the child. Visitation schedules might need to change as the child gets older but you can figure it out.[/quote]

Thank you. There has been no divorce in my family so this is new territory. My child is a very early riser so it would be more or less impossible for me to wake up any earlier. I guess I could get used to going to bed by 9:00 and waking up at 5:00. Baby is also not content to play alone for more than 20 minutes, if I'm lucky. Husband and I tag team in the mornings. [/quote]

OP- if either of you are absolutely 110% adamant about divorce, that be one thing, but I was in a very similar sounding situation to yours and my marriage improved dramatically when the baby was around 13-14months old. We still need to pursue marriage counseling to work on communication and lots of built up resentment, but we no longer scream at each other and talk about divorce. Please see a marriage counselor or seek outside help if you think there is anything at all worth salvaging in your marriage. I think for us, the baby was such a hug change and we said a lot of awful things to each other in the early sleep deprived days. And once the baby started STTN it took a really long time to catch up and feel somewhat well rested. [/quote]

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