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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like "discussions" at my house a lot of the time. I try to a) choose my battles and b) time it carefully. Unless it's something egregious, if he's not in a mood where he'll be receptive, I wait until a better time. It's BS, but that's what I do.[/quote]

Somewhere in his childhood he developed a bad habit where he prefers to DEFLECT responsibility or START AN ARGUMENT / ATTACK OTHERS instead of address the issue (his issue) at hand.

I would suggest counseling for this because it is ingrained and sensitive to men's egos. You do not want your children thinking this is A+ role modeling, it is terrible and destructive (to relationships and trust and communication).

He needs to work on answering questions and taking responsibility for his actions. Then internalizing them and improving himself. 
You will need to remember to overly politely make requests, point things out, be positive more than negative.

I will add that this deflection and arguing habit is a SECOND ORDER CONDITION of something else. The first order condition is his constant forgetfulness, errors, carelessness, immaturity.  He needs to get it together.  Best case this is ADHD Inattentive and he can get help remembering and organizing things in his life in a way that works for him. Worst case is he is lazy, stupid, misogynist, narcissistic, or all of the above. [/quote]

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