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[quote=Anonymous]Your MIL is being a drama llama.  I would not engage with that in any way shape or form.  100% your DH needs to deal with this.

My MIL would say the exact same thing.  And I would have just say "see you soon!" and left it at that.

The more you respond to her random guilt trips the more she'll lay them on you.

What we do: we remain open and loving when she wants to see the kids, but we do hold up our  boundaries.  Meaning if she calls at 8am on Saturday saying she wants to come over right then, but we already have plans, we decline (or invite her).  She always refuses.  When she calls in advance and asks to schedule a time, we will always schedule a time that works for us.  But we won't drop everything for her whims.

It helps she is a really good grandmother and really loves my kids.  She's just somehow HORRIBLE at planning, and then blames us for not picking up her slack.  She also likes to complain we don't use her for baby sitting and then will also complain about driving to our house etc.  We can't win, we already know that.  So we do what works for us and our kids, and let her figure out the rest.  If she doesn't like it, she's welcome to change her approach.  I have seen small shifts, but nothing earth shattering.  [/quote]

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