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[quote=Anonymous]If you think he can control this and is not absolutely out of control when he does this, I would try logical consequences. If he throws things in a room, then he isn’t allowed back in that room for a set time. I would probably start with twelve hours, and if needed, up it to 24 or 48 until he knows you mean business. During his free time, he should have to help repair anything he broke or polish any surfaces that were roughed up. If he can’t fix it, he can sit and watch you fix it instead of doing an activity that he enjoys. If he throws things that are his, take them and put them in a box and charge him a dollar to get them back. If he throws things that belong to family members, then he isn’t allowed to use family items for a set time. That means the TV, the dishes - except for his own personal plastic cup, bowl, and spoon. That means nothing jointly owned by the family unless it is a matter of safety.

Try this while also doing all the things mentioned above, including the snowballs. You need to get control of this before he is old enough to take your car and smash it up. He might benefit from blood testing to see which meds will work best and a behavioral counselor. You really are right in wanting to stop this. Have a meeting and outline the new consequences first, and ask him what he thinks would help prevent them. Be consistent and take emotion out of it as much as you can. Praise for any success and before you say no to something, remind him. “I understand that you really want this, and I want to remind you what you can do if your feelings are very strong before you hear the answer. Keep your hands and feet to yourself. I have to tell you that I know you can handle the frustration about the fact that we can’t go to the pool today” or whatever. Remind before saying no.[/quote]

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