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[quote=Anonymous]Her primary care physician’s office called to say she has been given multiple referrals, but refuses to follow through with making and keeping the appointments. My mother, who is 59, can be very difficult. This is not out of the norm for borderline people.

Her excuses for not going are all over the place. She said the “welfare doctors” are trying to kill her because one suggested removing part of her thyroid. Another one only had 8:00 appointments available. She told me she would have a heart attack if she had to get up early and go see a doctor. The rest of the reasons are just how they’re all idiots and she can’t get an appointment, no matter how many times she tries. She tried calling them 5 times in 3 months, and hung up when they kept putting her on hold.

If I try to step in and make these appointments for her, then I will be the one who’s incompetent and trying to kill her. I’m not sure how to encourage her to do this. She spent nearly 30 minutes yelling at me when I called to tell her to take an appointment and see the doctors. She afraid of doctors, and goes into attack mode when someone is pushing her to do anything.

She lives 800 miles away, so taking her to appointments isn’t feasible. She was recently diagnosed with kidney disease. The cause is uncontrolled diabetes. I went down there when she was in the hospital to tell the doctors she wouldn’t comply with instructions to use insulin.

Any else BTDT? Advice? [/quote]

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