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[quote=Anonymous]My parents were always crappy but never as bad as when they met my husband.  The only comments were that he was too short and Jewish. I ignored them (I was in love and really didn't notice -- or didn't want to) but they always talked negatively about him.  I think when we had kids, I really started noticing the favoritism to my sister.  The result is that they regularly go on vacations with her and her kids, buy her kids beautiful presents for Christmas and birthdays and have nothing to do with me or my kids.  They have told me that they will leave all their estate to her.  I have no problem with any of these things since I don't need money, vacations, or presents.  I'm okay with the occasional family visit and not the materialistic things.

What I do have a problem with is the way they treat me.  My kids are given used garbage getting their house (old costume jewelry that is unsafe for little kids or used Christmas decorations or stained shirts from thrift stores).  It's shocking.  I'd rather they gave nothing and told them so.  We still get their junk and always with a big to-do of how they got little Jimmy 5 presents.  And they don't regularly visit us, so they are spending more money on postage than the gifts.  I know that it's the thought that counts but here the thought is pretty lousy.

Last week, that cancelled a weekend vacation with our family because they decided (over a month after we booked the rooms) that we hadn't asked nicely enough (saying nothing at the time and agreeing to make it work).  That's obviously a ruse but  they insist that it's my fault and claim that they will go if I apologize and ask nicely.  I refuse to do this because it feels like a game.  And I know that I'll just get hurt if then they don't come.  There's no money lost since we can still cancel but it's just the hurt feelings.

Today, still reeling from last week, they announce over text message that they refuse to attend our oldest son's bar mitzvah this Spring because I "abuse" them.  He'll understand because he's a smart kid but I feel hurt again. On one hand, it has become obvious to me that my parents are bigots. On the other, I'm just wondering why my parents don't love me.[/quote]

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