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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No but I am equally judgmental about any adult that doesn't provide/pulltheir weight for their family.[/quote]

^This.  I have friends who married guys who just can't get their acts together and I do judge because my friends work crazy hard to keep the family afloat while the men just flounder.  Best example - husband is 38 and a pizza delivery guy because he keeps getting fired from other jobs because of "authority issues" (last three firings were from talking back to a boss, timeliness, not listening resulting in injury of coworker).  He also is the same way at home  - he doesn't clean or contribute really but instead sits home and plays video games during the day while making messes.   She wants kids but worries they won't be able to afford them given he can't hold a job so they have yet to have children.  I really don't understand this relationship.

Now if you are defining provider by money, then no I don't have a problem with a man making less money than a woman if he is working and contributing.  My bff's husband works as a teacher - it is not a get rich profession, but he works hard, loves it, and makes a difference in society.   He is a wonderful husband and steps up around the house including doing most of the cleaning (he doesn't mind it and my friend hates it - so she does yard work as she likes that more - a traditional role reverse you'd call it).  I have no judgement there.

I think I judge work ethic.  Does this person work hard and also contribute to the household?  That's what I judge. [/quote]

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