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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Probably a minority opinion on this...and you may not be inclined to be in a very "generous" frame of mind toward how your wife is feeling/will feel if you are already in place where you are feeling neglected as a husband, etc.

But...I think for me, as a mother, the hardest part of getting divorced would be the visitation of my own children. I cannot imagine the pain of that. (I know, divorced parents get used to it bc they have to.) But this may be why she is asking you to wait 5 years. She gave birth to these kids and cannot imagine having her minor children in her life and home only part time. I know I would have a very very very difficult time with this, regardless of how miserable I felt being married to my DH. And maybe you are okay with visiting your kids, OP...but she is not. Thus the wait 5 years request.

It will still be a huge adjustment for the kids, but their formative years will be behind them, they'll have made it to college and on a path to establishing their own futures. It's a period of transition anyway. Not saying they will LOVE it, but they'll be in a better position to cope with it how THEY choose, rather than at the mercy of custody battles and such.[/quote]

DD is older than 12..  I have a better connection with my kids than most dads.  I do several things around the house to make their lives easy.  Plus I have a successful career and accumulated wealth to pay for their education.  I would either rent or buy a house within walking distance of our current house just so I can spend time with them.  But as they have gotten older.. they have less time for me because they are developing into themselves.

My wife has a job.  Even though she doesn’t appreciate what I do or who I work for.. She is will also get half of what I have accumulated.

If we get them involved with therapy would that make it easier? [/quote]

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