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(My wife is not interested in being a true stay at home parent. It’s just that she doesn’t want to be tied to a computer and a desk in an uninspiring job and she craves more flexibility and free time. She will likely try her hand at something entrepreneurial, or maybe dabble with hobbies. She’s struggling to find the thing she wants to do and wants the freedom to figure it out. She also wants more flexibility to be with the kids.)

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That just sounds extremely self indulgent to me.  Lots of people want to have the freedom to leave their jobs and I don't begrudge those who can make it happen.   But if this is what she wants, she needs to be totally on top of the financial situation in your home, including being point person on managing all your finances and expenditures.   To me that is the most important part of being the SAH Parent .. being able to live off of one income means you make significant trade offs in spending to make it happen.

If I were you I would NOT agree to reducing your level of savings.   She needs to identify other ways to manage to keep you guys living well on $100,000 less salary a year.   Is she willing to give anything up?   [/quote]

+1.

A DW planning on finding herself and a liteny of hobby jobs to lose money on, and keeping the preschool and housekeeper.

You better actually love your job, b/c you are signing up to be her sugar daddy and breadwinner all in one.

I think you should consider counseling and a post-nup to clearly define how this will play out, so you don’t end up flushing thousands for her photography and craft crotchet Etsy shop, and have fights about you come home wiped out from a job you hate and she expects you to take the kids and do dishes while she gets some mommy me-time. [/quote]

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