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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. He has been on meds for many years. Sometimes they work for a while and then he goes back to baseline. They've changed his meds and dosages numerous times. I don't know that I've noticed anything "working" except for a short period of time (a few months).

The therapy was started a few years ago. He likes his therapist and won't switch. While I can't say I've noticed any change in his attitude since he started therapy he claims it has really helped. I just feel like they rehash a lot of the same narrative over and over and he tends to dwell on the issues with his parents (how bad they were) instead of figuring out ways to improve his outlook. I guess it's good for him to have someone else to complain to because beyond a certain point I just can't take it anymore.

I agree that he needs to work on gratitude for the things he has, and I have pointed this out to him many times. Neither of us are religious, but I would like to help him work on gratitude. I suggested a "gratitude journal" which he kind of scoffed at as being cheesy. Maybe I should dig in my heels on this one. [/quote]

Meds are only 50% of getting better. He has to change mindset and attitudes and do the emotional work in therapy, like CBT. If all he is doing in therapy is complaining, then he needs a new therapist who will hold him accountable for his own progress.

EXERCISE 1: learn how to reframe negative thoughts (just google it, it's easy)[/quote]

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