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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, it is not just you, OP.  I think every parent of yesteryear is flabbergasted at how much parents these days do for their children.  No way in hell did half this stuff happen a generation ago.  To start, salaries and cost of living and so many things have changed.

[b]I think parents of that generation don't want to feel as if there is a such a disparity in classes, extracurriculars, and luxuries not provided back then. [/b][/quote]

This. I think that generation has to feel a bit bad for what they didn't provide, when they could have bc they were UMC in a time with lower COL and salary growth. I think they are realizing that things like yearly vacations, cars, allowances of more than $5/wk, never saying no to ECs if they're doable in any way -- ARE good things. Yet bc they chose not to do that, they need to "justify" or "minimize" it -- i.e. oh you never wanted a car.

Maybe it's just me (I have little kids so IDK yet) but it seems like back when we were growing up, it was about the adult's convenience and no matter how much they loved you, child rearing was seen as an obligation of sorts. If they didn't want to spend the money or hassle on something they said no. They didn't want to buy you a car and that meant you couldn't get to x EC -- oh well, too bad, [b]we're the parents, it's our money, you can just stay home watching tv all summer. [/b]Now[b] it's much more "family centric" -- I feel like parents treat their teens more as "equals" and consider what they want,[/b] what's good for them overall and try to make it happen. It's not just about -- we're the parents, you're the kids, when you're adults you can do what you want. Maybe it's bc[b] these new parents are fulfilling the things they were denied?[/b] Maybe it's bc they realize -- you can do it when you're an adult -- isn't a substitute bc getting a retail job at the mall or cruising with your friends is special in high school, NOT in your 30s.[/quote]

I think that generation is faced with realizing how selfish they were, for the most part, and that is embarrassing to them.  They are being called out on it every time our kids get something that our parents would never have given us, in a million years.  It didn't occur to them, and if it did, if they did not feel like doing it, forget it - we must not have wanted to have it - in their minds. I don't know if they have really convinced themselves of this, because it's not like we have no memory of what really happened.  Glad you brought this up, OP.[/quote]

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