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[quote=Anonymous]So sorry you are feeling frustrated, I think so many of us can relate! It seems like his mind is just not on the things needing doing. Even though it feels like parenting if he is willing to help when you ask for it I would say, 'ask'. That is a gold mine right there that he is willing from what some ladies tell me!

You said it works in the immediate when you ask, so you know that he NEEDS the request. Some will never see it for themselves what needs doing. It is like they walk around with blinders on and no matter how much you wish it, they just can't see it.

I know it is so important to a woman to want a helper/equal in the marriage that we can focus ourselves on the things that are driving us crazy to the point of discontentment. You understandably have a reason to be frustrated. It helps me in my frustrations to think about all my spouse's positives, immediately before I share my frustration. Otherwise, I would be unhappy much of the time.
It also helps me to remember much of what my spouse does is a habit, and habits are hard to break. Habits repeat themselves in all of us. So maybe making some new habits together to get things done. 
Checklists, Setting up a calendar with things needing to be taken care of where he can see them and texting daily. These things may help him remember and when they are not done you have a visual for him to see how much help you are missing. My husband HAS to write things down or he forgets. I see this for everyone's needs with my husband, not just mine, but man do I get upset when I am the one forgotten lol.

I pray that you find a happy balance for you both and the help that you need soon! [/quote]

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