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[quote=Anonymous]Argh. So I just came home after a week away with the the kids, visiting my family - in part in response to husband wanting some quiet, kid-free time to himself - and there is no milk, no paper towels, no toilet paper in any of the bathrooms, and dirty laundry everywhere. I'm trying to keep myself from snapping at him, but yeah, I'm kind of pissed to come home to a mess and to have to immediately rush out to get essentials like toilet paper. (We have three girls, so we need toilet paper!).

On the one hand it's not a big deal - everyone sometimes gets preoccupied and forgets that maybe it would be nice to make sure there's toilet paper and so on. On the other hand, this [i]always[/i] happens. We've talked about this, in the relationship-counselor-approved way ("Sweetheart, sometimes I feel overwhelmed, and i would really like it if you could also help make sure we don't run out of things/stuff gets fixed/lightbulbs get changed etc.") Each time, he says, "I want to be your partner, I want to help make sure you don't feel overwhelmed, I will do that." But he doesn't. He rarely follows through, whether it's on helping with grocery shopping or "Yes, I'll fix that fence/call the contractor/call the plumber." If I say, "Please do X right now," he will do it. If X is not RIGHT THAT MINUTE, he will never do it.

Any suggestions? Yes, we both work full time. Yes, I earn 70% of the household income, too. I love him but it's hard to respect him sometimes. I often feel like he's my fourth child.[/quote]

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