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I was so upset this afternoon, but have calmed down somewhat.

Today my husband handed my son a food which contained nuts (a Pad Thai sample outside a store), when he knows that DS is allergic to most nuts to varying degrees, including anaphylaxis. I was inside the store and did not see it happen. He did not stop to think and ask whether the sample contained nuts. Luckily, DS felt nauseous and ill but did not swell up. We have epipens at school and I carry one in my purse when out and about with him. My husband attended the latest allergy appointment where all the specifics were spelled out.

This is the 3rd time my husband has done this while knowing DS was allergic to nuts. The second time was a few months ago at a potluck, with a baclava containing pistachios, which neither of them thought to check. I looked afterward, there was no ingredients list, so the correct move would have been to avoid it - I happened to recognize pistachio fragments on my son's lips. DS swelled up and had an anaphylactic reaction. The first time was years ago at a Vietnamese restaurant when he gave DS some of his own dish, not realizing it had peanut shreds on top. DS projectile vomited within 5 seconds in a spectacular manner inside the restaurant.

My son is now 13, and I've done my best to train him to always ask the restaurant server or party host if there are nuts in the food, and when in doubt, to read the ingredients list, and when in doubt, to NOT EAT. He has asked systematically and acted responsibly all year. However, he automatically eats anything his father hands to him, because he trusts him. It's really hard for my son to think of second guessing his own father.

What can I do? It boggles my mind that a parent would casually forget such a life and death matter. His reaction today? He apologized in a defensive manner and said "it may happen again".
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